Unhealthy Vows.

Ezekiel 36:26 as a promise: "I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you. I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh."

What is a vow? What comes to your mind when you hear of it? Is it when a lady commits to stand with her man till death? or a man promises his lady of not walking out ? Vows like these are seen positively, as a God-given privilege, and are something most singles long for. However, not all vows are positive. In fact, some can sabotage romantic love and hinder singles from making it the wedding altar.
The American Heritage Dictionary defines a vow as an "earnest promise that binds one to a specific mode of behavior".

·   Unhealthy vows are rooted in deception

Many of us make vows which are rooted in deception, i will confirm this. If i underwent a break-up, that doesn't guarantee me to vow not to engage again, due to the heartbreak...(I’m just giving  an example).Would my ex-girlfriend then condemn all men and say that all men are liars, will she make a vow not to allow any other man in her life? Many of our vows after a heartbreak are all rooted in deception. If you have made a vow which you feel being unhealthy in your life, more so after a break-up.

The first step to overcome is to ask the Holy Spirit to guide you as you reveal each lie that you believed in. Then, pray and confess His truth, because faith comes through hearing God's Word (Romans 10:17).

·     Unhealthy vows are ways we try to protect ourselves and try to make up on what we think God can't do for us

Many of us have been brought up in various lugubrious environs i.e. broken marriages. I am a victim of the same. I could have vowed never to get to marriage because i have lived to see marriages as disappointing. The same concept applies to the singles who pray and wait earnestly to get the"one".And when it doesn't happen, we can feel ignored, abandoned or orphaned by God. And, if He doesn't care about our personal lives, then we'll just have to take care of ourselves by making a vow, right?

To overcome this we need to shoot up our trust in Christ, as He promised (Hebrews 13:5). Acknowledge His love and ask Him if you have believed any lies about His presence in your life. Again, confess the truth and accept it.

·   Vows can hinder our Emotional Healing

Making unhealthy vows is like refusing to take prescribed medication while ailing. The only victim who ends up in pain is you. As a result, The Great Physician is not allowed in to take healing to that which is ailing. Some people have a difficult time getting real with God. If you struggle with sharing your true emotions with Him, remember that He knows how you feel anyway, so you might as well tell Him everything. This is the third step in overcoming vows. 

Take your emotional pain to God and invite Him into it. You can trust Him and He wants you to cast your cares on Him (1 Peter 5:7).

·     Remember that Christ wants to set you free.

Are you still entangled in these unhealthy vows? Jesus is ready to set you free. These happen as a gradual process, just like peeling an onion, it happened in layers rather than in an instant. The key thing is to keep Praying and holding your faith unto Christ.

He said in Ezekiel 36:26 as a promise: "I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you. I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh. “He is so true to His promises.

After tasting His doings, i know He can do it to anyone for He has done it for me.Will you try Him?

Shalom.