Unhealthy vows entangling us.

Ezekiel 36:26 as a promise: "I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you. I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh."

What is a vow? What comes to your mind when you hear of it? Is it when a lady commits to stand with her man till death? or a man promises his lady of not walking out ? Vows like these are seen positively, as a God-given privilege, and are something most singles long for. However, not all vows are positive. In fact, some can sabotage romantic love and hinder singles from making it the wedding altar.
The American Heritage Dictionary defines a vow as an "earnest promise that binds one to a specific mode of behavior".

• Unhealthy vows are rooted in deception

Many of us make vows which are rooted in deception,i will confirm this.If i underwent a break-up,that doesn't guarantee me to vow not to engage again,due to the heartbreak...(i'm just giving  an example).Would my ex-girlfriend then condemn all men and say that all men are liars,will she make a vow not to allow any other man in her life?Many of our vows after a heartbreak are all rooted in deception.If you have made a vow which you feel being unhealthy in your life,more so after a break-up.

The first step to overcome is to ask the Holy Spirit to guide you as you reveal each lie that you believed in.Then, pray and confess His truth,because faith comes through hearing God's Word (Romans 10:17).

• Unhealthy vows are ways we try to protect ourselves and try to make up on what we think God can't do for us

Many of us have been brought up in various lugubrious environs i.e broken marriages.I am a victim of the same.I could have vowed never to get to marriage because i have lived to see marriages as disappointing.The same concept applies to the singles who pray and wait earnestly to get the "one".And when it doesn't happen, we can feel ignored, abandoned or orphaned by God. And, if He doesn't care about our personal lives, then we'll just have to take care of ourselves by making a vow, right?

To overcome this we need to shoot up our trust in Christ, as He promised (Hebrews 13:5). Acknowledge His love and ask Him if you have believed any lies about His presence in your life. Again, confess the truth and accept it.

• Vows can hinder our Emotional Healing

Making an unhealthy vows is like refusing to take prescribed medication while ailing.The only victim who ends up in pain is you.As a result, The Great Physician is not allowed in to take healing to that which is ailing.Some people have a difficult time getting real with God. If you struggle with sharing your true emotions with Him, remember that He knows how you feel anyway, so you might as well tell Him everything. This is the third step in overcoming vows. 

Take your emotional pain to God and invite Him into it. You can trust Him and He wants you to cast your cares on Him

 (1 Peter 5:7).

• Remember that Christ wants to set you free.

Are you still entangled in these unhealthy vows? Jesus is ready to set you free.These happens as a gradual process,just like peeling an onion, it happened in layers rather than in an instant.The key thing is to keep Praying and holding your faith unto Christ.

He said in Ezekiel 36:26 as a promise: "I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you. I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh."He is so true to His promises.

After tasting His doings,i know He can do it to anyone for He has done it for me.Will you try Him?

Shalom.

Some concepts gotten from  Shana Schutte Copyright 2008.

6 A's i've learnt for proper apology by 22.

1 John 1:9

If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.

Hello pals,today happens to be my 22nd birthday,i really thank God for His unfailing mercies and love which are new every morning.Christ's love gives us hope,for we are made perfect each day by His mercies.
After knowing who Christ is and what He can do in my life,i devoted my life to Him ,now each day has been a learning day under His arms.It is through the above am proud of whom i am,i am a slave in Christ.He has given me the grace to share with you friends.
On my birthday i wanna share with you the
 6 A's for proper apology.

1.Admit you made a mistake,this makes life easier to work it out...many of us try to justify themselves,we end up making situations more compromised and lugubrious.
2.Apologize-"..i am sorry i did blah...blah... "Being remorseful creates a vacuum for love...
3.Acknowledge the mistake,this should not be confused with Admitting as above,Check your lifestyle,what made you err,point out things in your life that makes you commit a given mistake and drop them...
4.Attest-plan on how to fix your mistake on a given timeline,many of us walk out unconcerned,with the 'i don't care' attitude.This is not right friends.
5.Assure- i came to realize it's also worth to state the plans you have to prevent the same error in future,they said, prevention is better than cure.Learn to be smart in life to avoid some mistakes
6.Abstain-Well,its an usual norm,that is,it's a mistake to repeat a mistake...i have learnt not to cycle back to my mistakes...because in high school we used to say...once beaten twice shy!

• I am apologetic to anyone i messed up with over the past years.I pledge your forgiveness.

Much said and done.Also its noted that after a mistake,there is deprivation of love and trust from the other party.For love,where there is no love,apply love and you will get love....and what of trust?

Cheers!

I Have learnt to be thankful forever:::

^{Psalm 100: 4} Enter His gates with thanksgiving and His courts with praise; give thanks to Him and praise His name

Year 3 semester 2 started with exams...that can never be forgotten. The walk-ins i have made to the Main Library are indelible.Again early in the semester i was engaged in other club activities,leading EUCOSSA-our Computer Science Club in Egerton University.All in all through these,the Lord has been my Ebenezer.I can raise a banner and proclaim its not by my might nor by my strength...but by the Spirit of God.

We all have reasons to thank God.Even the breath that we take unconsciously...that is God.That academic year(it's over!) i had 13 units to tackle...that not withstanding i had a project or two.Am so grateful to God for His grace to survive all these.I remember i underwent a lot while coming up with a software project proposal which my lecturer  turned me down severally...i reprinted without ceasing,however i still submitted.
My life here in campus this year was all about trusting in God.I have suffered from a heart break,am sorry to say so,but its all my fault.(Not that am unfaithful).Well it all happens for a reason...and for all i have learnt to be thankful.
I have worked out different projects this year,and too,i have seen God's favor.Lord am thankful.
The semester has ended and i have handed over as the EUCOSSA chairperson.Am grateful to God for the time He gave me serve the club.Also for the skills of professionalism gained from EUCOSSA.This gives me a reason to thank God.
As i pen off,i also wish to share this,the Lord is so faithful,He says,call unto me and i will show you great and mighty things you know not-Jeremiah 33:3,indeed His knowledge none of us can reach.I was chosen as a Google Student Ambassador for Egerton University.This gives me a chance to serve Google in my last academic year.This also gives me a reason to thank God.Indeed He is ever faithful.
I have learnt to  be thankful forever.Join me we thank God.
Shalom.

Heart of Worship....

^{John 4:23} But the hour is coming, and is now here, when the true worshipers will worship the Father in spirit and truth, for the Father is seeking such people to worship him.

We were created to worship the King of Kings and the Lord of Lords. Every action we do, every move we take, every word we speak, every view we perceive…all these should bring glory unto Jehovah.

Worship is a lifestyle. Let’s lead a worshiping life to Christ alone. Let’s put Christ first in the preoccupations of our hearts and mind.

One more thing, worship is love…it’s an intimate thing, I understand we are all youths right?…can you attest to how much you love your girlfriend/boyfriend to whom you are in a stable relationship…can you love God more intimately than that very person?...Remember, God is the author of love, love Him and He will teach you how to love.

My Heart is owned by Christ.

Shalom.

Love...My own Confessions..

Isaiah 30:21 "Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, “This is the way; walk in it.”

Many are the times we feel downcasted and not worth living,we do  many things albeit wrong and against the  walking of a christian.We end up messing our first faith and become tools of the evil one.I too encountered such situations while here in campus.like sometimes you feel  being so alone,you want to do like the rest of your friends, course-mates ...you look for a partner in quench of love,just to find yourself in a lot of mess and trouble.
As Christians we need to embrace patience,and chastity ...these are the two virtues that define a true Christian youth.You will be able to know when the right time comes,or you will recognize your hour of favour!
We end up doing things out of our human knowledge,without acknowledging God.We tie up other people not to reach their divine destiny and hold their dreams as if we are immortal.
I never meant to spill this..., i thought it was nice for me to have a girlfriend,little did i know everything that comes on the way has to come with a price.This one was too expensive for me to bear.I valued my little resources and tried to share it withing my niche and found i was a kinda 'kid-father' to be.I had many dreams and expectations,but deep within my heart something still reckoned,'it wasn't time...'
Now hear i am,not heartbroken...,because God's will always takes the preeminence.I repented and surely God is faithful and just to forgive.He will always direct you with a small still voice.Now am free,am free to serve the Lord in my youth age.I am ready to proclaim His word to the nations,NOT chaining any lady with me because its only Christ who knows when the right time comes.
My word to my brother here in campus,take heed of this,look,open your eyes...there are many in the light,then go to your knees having patience and chastity in your heart.God is not a man to lie.
May the Lord teach me to wait patiently upon Him.
Shalom.